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Surrogate Mother Requirements

For those considering being a surrogate mother... do you meet the requirements and is it right for you?

   

Family Building Via Surrogacy

Conditions that warrant the use of surrogacy.

   

Risks to Surrogate Mothers

A detailed list of side effects, complications and risks to surrogate mothers.

   

Questions for Intended Parents Pursuing Surrogacy

A must read for couples considering traditional surrogacy.

   

Intended Parents Checklist

An important checklist for Intended Parents to help safeguard your surrogacy experience.

   

Birth Stories

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Heather

Sydney & Isabella - July 5th, 2011
Heather shares her birth story as a Canadian gestational surrogate to twins.

 

Tamara

Ezra & Ava - October 31st, 2009
Tamara shares her birth story as a Canadian gestational surrogate to twins.
   

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Clara & Markus

Chris and I are expecting our first child together and based on LMP my due date is Feb.26th, 2010 (I have long cycles and with ultrasound testing my due date is Mar.2nd, 2010). This baby will be my 5th child!



Ultrasound at 6weeks 2days...


Ultrasound at 9weeks...


Ultrasound at 13weeks...

Gestational Age: 13weeks2days
Crown to Rump Length: 62.8mm (Head to Bum)
NT: 2.2mm
Heartrate: 158BPM



Ultrasound at 20weeks...





Ultrasound at 21weeks... IT'S A GIRL!!!!


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40 weeks pregnant
On February 22nd at 39 weeks I awoke around 3am to strong contractions. After a few hours we decided to make the trip to Labour & Delivery... contractions were 5 minutes apart and I started to get bloody show. Once hooked up to the monitor my contractions started to get farther apart and even though I was 4cm's dialated they decided to send me home. I continued to get bad contractions and a lot of bloody show over the next three days. I had never experienced prodromal labour before so this was very frustrating to say the least!

The following Sunday, two days after my due date I decided to try the pineapple trick of eating an entire fresh pineapple to bring on labour. So I drove to the grocery store and picked out a big one! Chris cut it up for me and I ate the entire thing... it was delicious! Later that night around 11pm I felt the first contraction... it wasn't very painful but it got my attention. Chris was getting ready for bed and I said to him... "you might want to reconsider going to sleep" which we both kinda shrugged off as I had been having so many contractions on and off we had no idea what was going on anymore. After about an hour of contractions ranging 7 minutes apart we decided to start using the Contraction Master online.

Around 1am the contractions started to get more intense and I wanted to spend time on the bed and toilet... but they were still erratic and we didn't want to make the trip to the hospital just to get sent home again! By 2am I started to get the shakes and bloody show, contractions were still a bit erratic, sometimes 5 minutes apart, sometimes 8-10 minutes apart but lasting for a minute and starting to hurt. We had the laptop on the bed and Chris timed all of them with the Contraction Master but all I remember most of that time at home is going from the toilet to the bed with our room lit up blue from the laptop!

By 2:45am we thought it might be wise to make the trip in, I was in pain and the bloody show was getting worse... plus it's a 45 minute drive to the hospital! Chris called his mom to come over and watch the boys and we headed out. During the car ride the pain really intensified and I remember them coming every 5 minutes and digging my nails into the car door! I couldn't be quiet anymore, as much as I tried the pain was just too intense, such a deep stabbing pain around my cervix and into my back.

We got to the hospital at 3:30am and had one contraction in the hallway on the way up to Labour & Delivery. I was taken to triage right away and they checked me and I was still 4cm's! I was having trouble with my breathing during the contractions and the nurse had to help me to focus on breathing through them. They took my blood right away and started to work at getting my IV in as I was GBS +++ Two nurses and two blown veins later, a third nurse came in to try and suddenly my contractions were back to back and I was in agony!!! The nurse decided to check me again and 45 minutes after I arrived I was now 6cm's dialated. I felt my water break and really started to panic and completely lose all control with my breathing. The pain was now completely unbearable! The nurse suddenly wanted me to get up and get to a labour room and I found the walk to the room really difficult as I felt tremendous pressure between my legs and my waters leaking. I got to the labour room about 4:30am and the doctor was called from home... suddenly there were lots of nurses in the room and I was moaning really loud while hunched over the bed. I was in so much pain I couldn't even get onto the bed. It was at this point I realized I was not going to get an epidural as I still hadn't had a IV line and an hour of antibiotics (you have to have this first before you get the epidural). I did not want a natural drug free birth like my first and remembering the pain of that delivery was almost too much to bear (my last two were epidurals).

Suddenly I hear all the nurses telling me not to push, I could not fathom why they were telling me this! I guess by the noise I was making they new baby was coming fast. I got on the bed and was checked to be an 8, a few minutes later I was a 9. By this time I was screaming out in pain, the contractions were back to back and I felt like I was seriously going to die. They gave me the gas to breathe and I told Chris to get the camera which was still in our car. The nurse said to him "you might miss the delivery" and he looked at me and I said "go!!" There was no way I was going to have the baby that fast I thought to myself, I've only been here an hour! Someone stabbed an IV into my left arm which I never felt with the contractions and suddenly it seemed Chris was back. I was 10cm's by the time Chris returned and the urge to push hit like something I've never felt before. It was intense, like I had no control over my body.... almost like when you throw up, your body is going to do it whether you want to control it or not. By this time I started hyperventilating and was clutching onto the gas and breathing so hard I suddenly felt all pain drift off. I could hear everyone yelling my name and feel my eyes roll into the back of my head but I was in never never land. All I remember was really bright lights and people yelling my name but I couldn't answer them, everything felt numb, my lips were frozen, I couldn't answer them. They took the gas off me and as I came too the doctor was there and told them "no more gas for her!" Chris said it was really scary when I passed out and everyone stopped what they were doing and looked concerned. But then, in an instant that freight train of pain was back and everyone was telling me to pull back my legs and push. There wasn't even time to break down the bed. Chris was by my head and I had four nurses holding my legs helping me and coaching me. The pain was indescribably bad!! I was screaming and moaning to everyone that I couldn't do it, I didn't want to do it, it hurt too bed, it stung too bad, please give me the gas... begging in it's most pathetic form. Chris said I kept apologizing in between and that it was somewhat comical. I gave 4 hard pushes and felt every inch of her rotate out... the stinging pain was absolutely unreal but as soon as she popped out the pain vanished and I had a beautiful baby girl with lots of dark hair!! She was born at 5:02am, weighing 7lbs 15oz and was 20 inches long. We named her Clara Lena H******* after two great grandmother's on Chris's side.

A picture of her great grandmother Klara in 1912...


I was really in shock from it all and Chris stayed with her and held her while I delivered the placenta. They gave me a shot in the leg and the placenta came out about 5 minutes after she was born. I didn't have any rips/tears but my vagina was stinging for a good hour afterwards. The put the ice pads on me down there and it brought a lot of relief. I think for the first two hours I was pretty dazed and confused from everything that had happened but I was soooooo in love!! Everytime I looked over at Chris he was holding her and just staring so lovingly at her while mouthing "I love you..." to me. It was really the best moment of my entire life. Chris stayed with me for the first day but I sent him home later that night to take care of the boys since I was really feeling good. I stayed up the first night just staring at her, I just couldn't believe I had such a beautiful baby girl and everything went so well. I really had prepared myself for another csection, I really never thought I'd end up having two vbac's and painfree recoveries.

We went home the next day after she was born... and I couldn't have asked for a better birthday present! I turned 32 and brought my baby daughter home from the hospital on the same day. Nursing is going great, she's very content and rarely cries... she is even sleeping 5-7 hours stretches at night. Chris and I are very proud and feel very blessed that all went well and we have a beautiful thriving daughter.

























































 

My DH Chris and I were married March 11th, 2011 and have a daughter Clara born March 1st, 2010.



We are thrilled to be expecting another baby on October 1st! I have 2 sons from a previous marriage, Tristan (born 1999) and Kieran (born 2003). I was also a gestational surrogate and carried twins, Victoria & Peter for an infertile Maryland couple (born 2000).




Ultrasound at 7 weeks...


Ultrasound at 12 weeks...


Ultrasound at 18 weeks... I have an anterior placenta so it was hard for the tech to make out the measurements of the heart so I have to go back again in 2 weeks. Baby is 18weeks 1day, heartrate was 160bpm and baby weighs 8oz. It's a boy!!!!!!!







Ultrasound at 20 weeks...








26 weeks pg!


27 weeks pg!


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31 weeks pg!


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33 weeks pg!


Hospital bag and outfits are packed!



34 weeks pg!


36 weeks pg!


38 weeks pg!



Markus Heinrich
September 21st, 2011 at 2:51pm
38.5 weeks
8lbs 9oz
19.5 inches
Stratford General Hospital

This pregnancy was definately my hardest, first with severe morning sickness and then with my pelvis separating at 22 weeks. I spent the last 6 weeks on partial bedrest as it was incredibly painful to walk. My husband Chris and I were married when I was 10 weeks pregnant, what was supposed to be the best day of our lives was made really difficult with the morning sickness - but we made it through (somehow!)



I had two boys from a previous marriage already when I met Chris. Tristan as born vaginally on January 1st, 1999 and Kieran was born vaginally on November 14th, 2003. I was also a gestational surrogate and delivered boy/girl twins on December 16th, 2000. The twins were delivered via caesarean section as I developed prolapse cord during their birth. I was thrilled to have a vaginal birth after caesarean (VBAC) with Kieran in 2003 and also with our daughter Clara on March 1st, 2010 (our first child together!) However, Clara's birth turned out to be very traumatic for me as she was delivered in less than 2 hours and I never received any pain medication (Clara's birth story & pics). We live an hour from the hospital and I was very stressed with Markus' pregnancy that I would end up on the side of the road, or miss an opportunity again for pain relief!


My last belly pic at 38 weeks.

I had a really great OB this time and told him my concerns and he always assured us that he would do everything he could to make this a good experience. His one concern though was that with my previous csection I was risking a rupture with a vaginal birth and I was not allowed to be induced (only have my water broken if my cervix was favourable around 38-39weeks). I was a little confused that he felt this way since I had two vaginal births already since my csection but he informed us that the more vaginal births you have after a csection the greater the risk of rupture as every contraction strains the scar more and more. There had also been some babies lost this year at our local hospital from uterine rupture with moms with the same history as me so I found this really worrisome.

On Wednesday September 21st at 8am we went in for another OB appointment and I wasn't dialated enough for my water to be broken. I was in so much pain I broke down crying as I couldn't imagine another day with the pelvic pain. My OB said we could do a csection if we wanted and immediately I knew it would be the right choice with everything considering. I was terrified to have another natural birth, I was in pain and I didn't want to risk losing our precious baby to uterine rupture or some other complication with waiting another week. There was also concern that delivering a full term baby would permanently affect my pelvis and I would need corrective surgery. My OB said he'd give us some time to think it over and would come back in a few minutes. Chris and I both felt it was the best decision and agreed we should go ahead with the surgery. It wasn't an easy decision though as I knew I'd be in pain recovery wise and it was scary knowing it was going to happen that day. But we also knew that it would be the beginning of recovery for me as we could still face another week of pain and bedrest and STILL end up with a csection anyways.

We were sent down to L&D and were told the surgery would be around 3pm after general surgeries were over. At first we went to triage but requested a private room since we had Clara with us and wanted time to settle in. We called my mom to come in and stay with me while Chris took Clara back to our house to be watched by his mom. To say I was nervous was a huge understatement and I kept telling myself I just had to get through the bloodwork, the IV and then the spinal. I have a horrible time with IV's and have never had a good experience. Thankfully I had a great team of nurses working to make sure we had a great experience and they covered my hand with EMLA to numb it up and said they had the best nurse for IV's. Amazingly she got it on the first try! Chris kept telling me "you had such a horrible pregnancy but you are going to have an easy birth... just see". I tried to hold on to what he said and also the end result... our beautiful baby that I was going to be holding later in the day (hard to believe!)

At 1pm my OB came in and said we were ready to go but Chris had still not returned! He arrived soon after and everyone started to get everything ready for us to go to the OR. The nurses sat with me and explained how everything was going to happen and really helped to calm the fears I had. I started the walk down to the OR and Chris was told to get dressed and that he could come in once my spinal was placed.


Chris waiting to go in!

At 2:30pm I went into the OR. I was so nervous once I sat down on the operating table. Immediately the anaesthesiologist began to prep my back with the cold antiseptic and kept assuring me that all was going to be well and this would be over before I knew it! I put my head on my nurse's shoulder and held her hands tightly. I kept telling her how scared I was and she kept telling me I was doing great and that everything was going to be okay. The spinal wasn't so bad, I jumped with the initial local injection and then it was pretty much over. I kept telling the anaesthesiologist with the twins birth/csection I wasn't able to breathe and they knocked me out, he assured me I wouldn't have that experience again (they told me later it was because I had an epidural and then a spinal that was placed high which can affect your breathing). Not long after the spinal was placed they laid me down on my back and immediately I felt the numbing start from my toes all the way up to my neck. I felt someone put in the catheter but didn't feel any pain with it. Everything was numb and I could breathe! For the first time in months all my pain was gone and I told everyone "I can't feel the pain anymore!" I was so happy to be painfree I did notice that I seemed to zone out a bit and was delayed in responding, my mind was working normal but it seemed my mouth/face was a bit frozen. Chris came in and sat down next to me and kept talking me through everything.... I felt so much better once I knew he was there.





My OB asked me how I was feeling and I told him good and he said "I've been pinching your belly with a sharp instrument and you didn't respond so you must be good". The OR staff all starting talking about this and that with their own personal lives and I felt a bit of pressure and tugging (very strange sensations) and then I heard the suction. I remember reading somewhere once that if you hear the suction your baby is less than a minute from being born. I suddenly got extremely emotional and started crying... it was maybe 15 seconds and I heard our beautiful baby crying! Chris exlaimed he's here, we have a baby! Our beautiful son Markus was born at 2:51pm. They took him over to the warmer and his cries were so robust and healthy sounding. It was the first birth I ever cried at, I was so happy it was over with and so happy he was okay. They held him up and I couldn't believe how precious he was and I couldn't believe his weight... 8lbs 9oz! He is the biggest baby I've had and he was born 8 days early! Clara had been my biggest baby at 7lbs 15oz and she was 3 days overdue ... I think it was the bedrest and one too many treats for mom  (my other babies weighed 7.12lbs, 7.10lbs, 7.8lbs & 7.7lbs)


Markus - 8lbs 9oz


Chris showing me Markus - instant love!

They brought Markus over to us and it was so heartwarming to see Chris hold his new baby son. I was so emotional! He looked absolutely perfect to me! It was around this time that the OB said it was a good decision having the csection as my uterine scar area was very thin. I'm so happy we didn't risk a vaginal birth and have a uterine rupture, it was at that moment I was so happy we did the csection. I told Chris he could go as they said I'd be out in a few minutes... I knew my Mom was dying to see what we had (she didn't want to know the sex the whole pregnancy).


Very proud pappa!

At some point they noticed the IV in my left hand had blown so they started another one in my right hand (there was a huge lump rising - it looked horrible). Once the surgery was completed they went to transfer me to my bed and accidently ripped the IV out of my hand. They then had to start another one and had a heck of a time getting a line in. The anaesthesiologist seemed a little panicked with the whole IV situation and I know they don't like it when they don't have a good line going. All I remember is it seemed like they were smacking my veins/arms for the longest time and jabbing and I couldn't feel a thing. Even my arms were numb thank GOD! They finally got one in and I was able to go back to my room.


I would say the IV's were the worst part of the whole process!


Holding Markus for the first time.


First nurse!


My recovery was pretty easy, I would say the lack of sleep and gas pains the next day were the worst part. I haven't had a lot of pain recovery wise, the first time you get up isn't the greatest feeling but they had medication in my spinal that lasted for almost 24 hours that was really great. I then went to morphine and T3's and some sort of suppository pain medication. The worst part of the hospital stay was the constant vital checks and nurses looking at your incision... I didn't get much sleep there!!








First Bath!


Going home from the hospital.

I left the hospital on Saturday morning... it was so nice to go home! We are loving every moment with Markus and the breastfeeding is going great. I nursed my other babies for over a year and hope to do the same this time. Overall it was a great birth experience! Markus is our last baby and I am so happy to be done with building our family



Big sister Clara and Markus at home.


It was great to go home and nap with my two babies.



More birth & first month pictures can be seen here... https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?...ed85bc6&type=1